6 Reasons Why Introverts Hide Their Feelings
Jan 23, 2021
From not wanting to upset others to not wanting to be the center of attention.
Introverts have different reasons why they hide their feelings.
They get their energy by introspection, contemplating and processing their own thoughts and feelings while alone or in a small circle of friends.
They tend to reside in their inner world which they value greatly.
Due to this tendency, they are more often than not private people. How do I know? Well, I'm an introvert and I have a lot of introverted friends!
But what are some of the reasons that introverts are discrete? Let’s dive in 6 Reasons Why Introverts Hide Their Feelings.
Why Introverts Hide Their Feelings (6 Reasons)
1. Introverts hide their feelings, because they don’t want to upset others
Introverts are regularly more soft-spoken. They reside in their inner worlds and often developed their capacity to introspect greatly.
Although they recuperate after a busy day by reflecting and contemplating, this habit to self-reflect isn’t always a picnic.
It can be quite painful sometimes to discover the flaws of your own character, even-though it’s crucial to grow as a person.
It is one thing to discover your own shortcomings, and another when someone else tells you what your shortcomings are (ouch).
Sometimes it’s needed to tell how you feel, because someone crossed your boundary, for instance.
Introverts may hesitate to tell how they feel, because they don’t want to upset anyone (unless they really have to).
As introverts may get more easily overwhelmed by emotion, they might be anxiously anticipating a heated argument when they tell someone what’s bothering them.
Unless there is no other way, arguments are things that introverted people try to avoid at all cost, because it could lead to overwhelming emotions which makes them uncomfortable.
But not wanting to upset others has also to do with their gentle-nature.
Why would you tell everything you feel about someone that could possibly upset them, if that isn’t needed or perhaps irrelevant?
Introverts are rather tactful when it comes to revealing how they feel, because they believe it’s better to keep a relationship unscathed than to risk unrepairable damage by disclosing all that they think or feel all the time.
2. Introverts hide their feelings, because they don’t trust others (yet)
The inner world of introverts is often an intimate place of carefully contemplated concepts, ideas and feelings about themselves, their social environment and the world.
They nourish themselves by tending to that inner sanctuary and are quite good at that.
Their innermost thoughts and feelings are authentic and very personal.
They may take pride in the carefully crafted opinions and perspectives on life, which they’ve accumulated in their lifetime.
However, because these things are so personal, they could be a vulnerability as well.
A nightmare scenario for the introvert would be that their often well thought out ideas are blatantly challenged or ridiculed in a group setting.
For instance, while in a meeting with a group of co-workers.
Engaging in a heated discussion is probably overwhelming enough, let alone if some of their personal beliefs is unexpectedly under public scrutiny. That could really hurt.
That’s why they first want to make sure that it’s safe for them to reveal their personal opinions and feelings. Introverts hide their feelings, because they don’t trust others (yet).
They tend to open up gradually to the people they don’t really know, like in a work situation with new co-workers.
What type of people am I dealing with? Are they open-minded? Close-minded? Do they think before they speak?
Or do they just react to everything that’s being said, because they can? Do they seek to resolve conflict or incite conflict out of enjoyment?
Introverts are looking for answers on these types of questions when they meet new people, and carefully take mental notes about someone’s character over a long period of time.
It’s their way of testing the temperature of the pool’s water, to make sure it’s just right before they jump in (partly) naked.
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3. Introverts hide their feelings out of modesty
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