Another 5 Common INFJ Male Problems
Oct 23, 2020
You might have read the first article about 5 Common INFJ Male Problems and thought: Wait.. That’s it? Well no, it isn’t.
Before we discuss some more, keep in mind that all the problems discussed in both articles aren’t all exclusive to INFJ males.
Other personality types or sexes could be facing the same problems.
However as a highly sensitive INFJ male myself, here's another take of mine on 5 common INFJ Male problems.
INFJ Male Problems (Another 5 Common Ones)
1. INFJ Men May Be Late Bloomers
We weren’t good at being young.
This is one of the ways how you could describe this problem. This isn’t to say we didn’t enjoy parts of our childhoods.
Yet, a lot of INFJs can probably relate to the notion of finding their groove in life rather later on in adulthood than during their late teens or even their twenties.
There is something about us that puts us out of sync with peers during that formative period of puberty.
Out of Sync
Is it the processing of all that change physically, internally and externally that weighs perhaps more heavily on us than others?
Is it our sensitivity that makes us more prone to avoiding risk and novel situations that other youngsters are naturally more drawn to?
Or is it that we just start the process of growing up in a different order?
Like developing INFJ teens possibly being more concerned with psychological and existential matters as opposed to the tangible and physical?
And later in life catching up on that more superficial stuff?
This could explain why INFJs can feel much older or younger than they are, given the certain age span and developmental stage they’re in.
In a sense it’s plausible that this is where our lonesome paths began.
In some ways we were always in a different place than our peers during those crucial stages of development.
Like we were always too early or too late to the “developmental” parties and missed what’s so important during those developmental phases which is being in sync with prominent people around us: our peers.
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Too Serious Too Soon
For example, I remember clearly that I was concerned with the problems of adults around me and thinking about life itself as a child.
Granted, that my trauma most likely had forced me on that path (read more in my INFJ Male Bio series).
As this is often the case with traumatised children regardless of personality type.
I dove deep inwardly for years and was very serious, anxious and hesitant, while my peers were going out and experimented with everything.
I felt I missed out a lot on dating, partying and experimenting in my teens, so I caught up on those things starting in my early twenties.
Now that I was getting the hang of dating and going out in my mid to late twenties, a lot of friends were settling down.
It seems the seasons of our lives were passing at a different pace and order. How was this for you?
Is the INFJ development always out of sync with that of its peers?
2. INFJ Men May Have an Ambivalent Relationship With Money
When it comes to handling money, it really depends on how we perceive money at a given moment.
It seems like we can be great with saving up money.
Using our “Judging” function to create elaborate money saving models and enjoying its never ending optimisation.
This could be aimed at a specific short term financial goal or a long-term financial goal.
With diligence we work towards them, sometimes even appearing frugal.
Money Doesn’t Mean A Thing
But then, all of a sudden we might sway the other way around completely.
We spend the money on the goals we had set up, or just randomly, we let it all slip away.
When it comes to warmth, affection and empathy, the INFJ personality is very generous.
In general people with INFJ personality traits seem to be very giving at heart.
As such we don’t mind treating friends on dinners or going all out on getting an expensive birthday present for a loved one.
Deep down we know we need money to have a life.
Yet, we absolutely detest being in the grips of the pursuit of money and appearing frugal or greedy.
Our morals will not stand for it.
Is this one of the possible explanations why we can save up money and then spend almost all on a creative endeavour or cause we believe in without worrying about it?
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